Emotion #4: The Torment of Anger – Pt. 1 Cont’d
“You’re familiar with the command to the ancients, ‘Do not murder.’ I’m telling you that anyone who is so much as angry with a brother or sister is guilty of murder. Carelessly call a brother ‘idiot!’ and you just might find yourself hauled into court. Thoughtlessly yell ‘stupid!’ at a sister and you are on the brink of hellfire. The simple moral fact is that words kill. This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters. If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right. Then and only then, come back and work things out with God” - Matthew 5:21-24 MSG
Arresting the Anger
Whenever we sense an injustice is being done to us, we need to take the dark thoughts that go with our hurt and sort through them. Begin to speak truth in your mind to counter and calm those negative thoughts. Usually you’ll find that your interpretation of injustice is not warranted in the situation. We may have misunderstood what someone has said or done and perceived it as a personal attack when it wasn't intended as one. Have you ever faced similar times of overacting to life because of a trail of dark thoughts? Our first impression and instincts are often based on a misunderstanding of truth and justice.
Have you ever complained about something happening at home or work and promptly shifted the blame for your feelings onto someone else? When feelings of injustice or anger well up, immediately began to ask yourself questions that will help you walk from lies to truth. You'll avoid impulsive, negative reactions and then be able to base your responses to people, trials, and circumstances on reality. Here are a few questions to get you started: